This so perfectly explains my “borderline homophobic” gayness. I hate how everyone boxes “the gays” as a single indistinguishable group. I don’t even want to be called gay because of it - I think the whole idea is stupid. I know that title is never going to go away, but IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH WHO I AM, WHAT I LIKE, WHAT I DO, OR WHO I AM FRIENDS WITH. It has very little to do with me. And just because I am gay, doesn’t mean I have ANYTHING in common with the next gay person I meet, or even possibly the next 50 gay people I meet. Just like not everyone who likes dogs more than cats has anything else in common. I just…. yeah.
50 Shades of Gay
“How could anyone vote to strip the rights of the vast variety of the people I knew based on one element of their character? How could they say that we as a group were not deserving of equal rights? Were we even a group? What group?”
“Self Evident Truths doesn’t erase the differences between us, in fact, on the contrary, it highlights them. It presents not just the complexities found in a procession of different human beings, but the complexities found within each individual person. It wasn’t that we had too many boxes, it was that we had too few. At some point, I realized my mission to photograph “gays” was inherently flawed because there were a million different shades of gay. Here I was trying to help, and I had perpetuated the very thing I had spent my life trying to avoid: another box.”
“I found that most people fall on a spectrum of what I like to refer to as “grey”. Let me be clear though, In no way am I saying that preference doesn’t exist… What I am saying is that human beings are not one-dimensional.
If you have gay people over here, and you have straight people over here, and while we recognize that most people identify as somewhere closer to one binary or another, there is this vast spectrum of people that exist in between.
Where exactly [on this spectrum] does one become a second-class citizen?”
“There are just as many jerks, and sweethearts, and democrats and republicans and jocks and queens within the LGBT community as there are within the human race. JUST BEING OTHER THAN STRAIGHT DOESN’T NECESSARILY MEAN WE HAVE ANYTHING IN COMMON.”